1. knitting a rainbow scarf for my goddaughter 2. sewing and perfect grey nails 3. cinnamon braid..yum
4. voted 5.bought a prize for someone special 6. nikon girl, bought some new camera toys on amazon
7. ikea trip!!! also, swoon for this light 8. bookshelves out of $2.99 ikea spice racks 9. ruffle scarves to be dyed
linking up with a good life.
When my ex and I broke up, I was adamant that I would not be a babymama.
1. I hate that term.
2. I was not his babymama.
The first (and only) time he called me a babymama (to my face, that I know of) I kind of chuckled. And then I burst into tears. Literally. And he was probably thinking that I had totally lost my mind.
I was genuinely upset and hurt.
Why?
I think the term ‘babymama’ is so disrespectful. It implies I am nothing more than this baby’s mama. And while I am, literally, the mama to this baby. I should be more than that.
I deserve respect. I carried this child for 9 months. In my case, I went through days and nights of contractions. Multiple trips to the hospital to be hooked up on monitors for hours. Shots in the bottom to ensure this baby baked as long as he could. Weekly check ups. Forget the sheer exhaustion of being pregnant. I labored and birthed this baby, all naturally might I add.
Beyond all this, it’s a complete slap in the face to the fact that I wasn’t married. If I was married, I’d be an ex-wife. But because I wasn’t, it’s a huge label taped on my back, like my failed relationship is something to judge or mock. The term makes it seem like I had a complete lapse in judgement in deciding who I procreated with. When you call a woman a ‘babymama’ it automatically degrades her in people’s minds to some hoe who got knocked up by accident. It doesn’t account for any relationship in the past or the love shared by two people. It’s a green light to make assumptions about this woman and her morals.
I am single mama.
I am the mama of two boys.
I refuse to be just a babymama.
I am so much more.
This is always me:
So two times today(11:11a\p), on 11.11.11, I will be able to make a super duper huge wish! Haha.
Enjoy your wishes :]
Here are my top two picks for this week :]
1. NYC Color-Sidewalkers
I have been looking for the perfect grey color. I have tried so many expensive colors from Essie and OPI. And the one that I love is $1.97. Figures.
2. This song. This version. These lyrics. All of it.
Seriously.
